Preheat oven to 425°F (220°C) and line a rimmed baking sheet with foil. Use kitchen shears to cut along the top of each lobster tail shell lengthwise, gently lift the meat out of the shell, and lay it on top (butterflied).
Brush each butterflied tail with melted butter and sprinkle with Old Bay seasoning, salt, and pepper. Roast for 10 to 12 minutes until the meat is opaque and just firm, then cool for 5 minutes and chop into 1 to 1.5 inch (2.5 to 4cm) chunks.
Reduce oven temperature to 375°F (190°C). Cook pasta in a large pot of generously salted boiling water until 1 to 2 minutes shy of al dente, then reserve 1/2 cup (120ml) of pasta water, drain, and rinse briefly with cold water.
Melt 4 tablespoons (57g) of butter in a large pot or Dutch oven over medium heat. Add the flour all at once and whisk constantly for 2 full minutes until the roux is golden and smells slightly nutty.
Slowly pour in the warmed milk in a thin stream while whisking constantly, then add the heavy cream. Bring to a gentle simmer over medium-high heat, stirring frequently, and cook for 4 to 5 minutes until the sauce thickens enough to coat the back of a spoon.
Reduce heat to low and stir in Dijon mustard, garlic powder, onion powder, cayenne, nutmeg, and Old Bay. Remove the pot from the heat completely, then add the shredded cheeses in three batches, stirring between each addition until fully melted and smooth.
Add the drained pasta to the cheese sauce and stir until every piece is well coated, adding a splash of reserved pasta water if the sauce seems too thick. Gently fold in half of the chopped lobster meat, then transfer the mixture to a greased 9x13 inch baking dish.
Distribute the remaining lobster chunks evenly over the top of the pasta, pressing them in slightly. In a small skillet, melt 2 tablespoons butter over medium heat, add panko breadcrumbs, and stir for 2 to 3 minutes until golden, then sprinkle evenly over the top.
Bake uncovered at 375°F (190°C) for 25 to 30 minutes until the sauce is bubbling at the edges and the breadcrumb topping is deep golden brown. Rest for 10 minutes, then garnish with chopped fresh parsley and serve.